Startups are not a job

Are you making startups a job? They’re not a job (At least they shouldn’t be) they are a lifestyle.

Everything comes down to what’s important to you. What do you really want to achieve? If it’s just money, then you fucked up somewhere. Startups shouldn’t be about making money, they should be about living out a love and passion to change the world. To execute on a vision.  To make a difference. If these are your priorities and reasons for starting companies then money, life, happiness, and all the gifts and joys of life will follow.

Lets be honest, startups are hard work, they take up much of your time and you have to sacrifice things. However, if you’re doing things for the right reasons, it wont feel like much of a sacrifice – it will feel like a gift.

Take a hard look at what you’re doing and why you’re doing it – money, ego, fame, friends, and be honest with yourself. Figure it out. Ask hard questions. And even if the answer becomes a very hard reality…deal with it. Drop everything, shift your priorities, and live the life you were meant to live.

 

Family Is First

Over a year ago my wife and I packed up our shit and moved to California from the mitten state – this is Michigan for those of you who don’t know it as the mitten. I was over MI. I couldn’t get out of the state fast enough. I was sick of the weather, the startup ecosystem, the capital, it just wasn’t what I was looking for – I learned this the hard way. Not that there aren’t great people doing awesome things in MI, it just didn’t fit and jive with me personally.

While in California, I traveled, I networked, and got super plugged into all the startup communities there. I spent time in San Diego, LA, San Francisco, the Valley, and a few other smaller communities like Santa Barbara, Carlsbad, Orange County, and a few others.

I was looking for more high growth startup stuff and an environment that was conducive to this. I wanted to plug into a system of badass entrepreneurs with vision, character, and a passion to make shit happen. Oh, and they value failure as a key driver to their community.

Moving away from MI was one of the best decisions I ever made. It brought me closer to my wife and my family, I became the one of the leaders of Startup California, which is a region of Startup America, It lead me to all the startups I’m involved with, I met some incredible people, and we found out that we were having Danny Beckett the third. What more could I ask for? Honestly, nothing. I am very, very thankful.

However, after we found out that we were having little guy there was something missing. Something just didn’t feel right. Something was keeping us up all night. What was it? It was family. Family has always been and always will be first in my life – if it’s not I hope someone steps up and slaps me. I say it in my bio, family is first, and after that, I’m all startups and business.

Because family is first, my wife moved back to MI about 3-4 months ago to be with our families during and after the pregnancy. I remained in Mountain View for just a little while longer until I couldn’t handle it any longer and I wanted to be with Sarah and my family too.

Today I spend 2-3 weeks in MI with my family and 2-3 weeks traveling back and forth to Mountain View, LA, SD, CA, New York, CO, and wherever else I need to be. It’s a little crazy at times, but it works for us and we are happier than we’ve ever been.

Here is what I’ve learned. Home is the place where your family is. You will journey out, you will try new things, and you will meet kickass people from around the world, but what will never change is that place you call home.

I leave you with this; move away, try new things, take risks, meet new people, discover the undiscovered, and don’t settle for anything less than awesome. But, while you’re out and about, just remember where home and family is.

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How about you? 

What’s your story?

 

Where are you in your priorities?

After God, who comes second in your life? Is it you? I sure hope so.

I know, this sounds selfish, but it’s the best advice and change I’ve ever put forth in my life.

The reality is, if you can’t take care of yourself, how can you tend to anyone else: your wife, children, company, team, startup, etc.

For me, if I take care of myself first it allows me to be mentally, emotionally, and physically available for others. It allows me to better serve and lead those around me.

Here are a few things to think about:

  • If you don’t take care of yourself mentally and participate in either prayer, meditation, or something of this nature, how can you have a clear mind to share with others.
  • If you don’t exercise and eat right, what would happen if you became very sick? You wouldn’t be much help to anyone around you now would you?
  • If you don’t get your rest, you won’t have the energy you need to get through your day.
  • If you don’t take the time to read and write, then you can’t have the intellect to contribute to others.
  • If you don’t take time to reflect and heal from your emotional wounds, you end up reacting and looking like a fool. It’s easy to make these mistakes. Instead, you should be in a position to teach, inspire and add value. How do you do this? I think counseling and therapy can be highly beneficial.

When you start taking care of yourself “first” then you can start taking care of those around you. I am know expert, nonetheless I am strive everyday to be better.

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What about you? 

Are you putting yourself first (after God)?

 

9 REASONS WHY I AM THE HAPPIEST I HAVE BEEN IN 7 YEARS

At the time I stopped racing professional motocross I was a very lost, scared, and confused. The thing that was driving me at this point in my life was my faith and Jesus. Even Though I was lost, scared, and confused I knew deep in my heart that God had a plan (It wasn’t always this way). No idea what that plan was, I started down the road determined to figure it out, and figuring it out was just what I was about to do.

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I thought to myself, what am I going to do with myself? All I had ever known was racing. I started riding at 4 years old and racing at 11. The biggest difference in my life at this time was Jesus. I was born again, and ready to make a difference in the world.

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ACTION COMMUNICATES PRIORITIES

Are you someone who talks about priorities, but struggles to show your priorities? How would your wife or family answer this question? Talking about priorities is easy, living them out is where the rubber meets the road.

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Growing up, our parents usually set our priorities. When we graduated, moved out, and went to college or started a life everything changed. We had to start setting our own priorities. Do you remember this time in your life?

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EIGHT REASONS WHY MY 2010 GOALS BECAME MY 2011 GOALS

What are your goals? They are different for everyone. For some people it’s loosing weight, for another it’s balance or getting a promotion. But, whatever your goals, the ultimate goal is to never give up on your goals. How many people do you know that set goals and never achieve them? You can probably think of a few.

Every year I set goals for myself. How about you? I was taught early on by my trainers to set goals and never give up on them. Even if that meant your goals had to be moved to the next year. In 2010 I set some very serious goals for myself after realizing how out of balance my life was. I sat down, prayed, and thought about what my goals should be for the year. I came up with three goals.

  1. Further my relationship with God.
  2. Better my relationship with my wife.
  3. Walk slowly through the halls.

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