Where are you in your priorities?

After God, who comes second in your life? Is it you? I sure hope so.

I know, this sounds selfish, but it’s the best advice and change I’ve ever put forth in my life.

The reality is, if you can’t take care of yourself, how can you tend to anyone else: your wife, children, company, team, startup, etc.

For me, if I take care of myself first it allows me to be mentally, emotionally, and physically available for others. It allows me to better serve and lead those around me.

Here are a few things to think about:

  • If you don’t take care of yourself mentally and participate in either prayer, meditation, or something of this nature, how can you have a clear mind to share with others.
  • If you don’t exercise and eat right, what would happen if you became very sick? You wouldn’t be much help to anyone around you now would you?
  • If you don’t get your rest, you won’t have the energy you need to get through your day.
  • If you don’t take the time to read and write, then you can’t have the intellect to contribute to others.
  • If you don’t take time to reflect and heal from your emotional wounds, you end up reacting and looking like a fool. It’s easy to make these mistakes. Instead, you should be in a position to teach, inspire and add value. How do you do this? I think counseling and therapy can be highly beneficial.

When you start taking care of yourself “first” then you can start taking care of those around you. I am know expert, nonetheless I am strive everyday to be better.

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What about you? 

Are you putting yourself first (after God)?

 

Where you invest your time will determine your destiny

Where are you investing all your time? Might be worth taking a hard look at because where you invest all your time could just be your destiny.

Where do you invest your time

In fact, it is your destiny and you might not even know it. Time is the most valuable asset you got so you better be using it wisely and paying attention to where you spend it.

Here are a few truths to follow: 

1. Whatever it is, if you work hard at it day in and day out you will eventually be good at it. It’s just how things work. Focus, work your tail off, and good things will happen.

2. If you suck at something it’s usually not all the fun, right? I mean, that is why I quit golfing…because I suck at it. I can ride a dirtbike, but Golf, yeah I suck. Now, if I played golf often, I would eventually get good and probably start to love it. It all comes down to where you spend your time.

3. Think of something you’re good at. Do you enjoy it? Well yeah, why wouldn’t you. The key is finding something you enjoy and overtime you will become more and more passionate about it.

4. So, if you are good at something, work hard at it. Invest time. Work harder than anyone else so that you can excel and be the best that you can be.

 

Do work you love

The last few months of working on several startup projects with passionate entrepreneurs has caused me to think about this idea of work. And, how do you find work that you love to do so much that you would do it even if you didn’t get paid? Entrepreneurs, you know exactly what I’m talking about here.

This whole process began when I started working on an old project that I quickly became super passionate about again. I was able to answer the question why am I doing this? The why that sometimes gets clouded with the what and how was clearer than ever before – I love building stuff and things: products, teams, companies, and anything that inspires me to take action.

Are you trying to figure out what kind of work you love to do? Does it feel like a struggle? If so, it should. However, don’t lose hope because what you love to do just might be right around the corner.

Finding work that you love is a struggle for…everyone. I’ve struggled with this, my friends have struggled with this, and pretty much everyone I know struggles with this at some point in their life. In fact, most people fail miserably at this.

Nevertheless, if you at least have a destination in sight, you’re more likely to arrive at a place in which work feels more like something you love than work.

Work has to start with a mindset of knowing that you can love work. If you’re able to do this, you are in the homestretch. And, if you can figure out what work you love, you’re more or less there.

 

Winning requires failure

I know that I’ve talked allot about failure lately, but it is just so real and awesome! People who are afraid to fail don’t end up doing much with their lives. God built us to fail. And God built is to fall. We just have to keep getting back up and thriving everyday to win.

If you think failure isn’t part of winning in life then you are more than a failure, you are an idiot.

Wait a minute, who is this guy saying that failure is awesome. How can failure be seen as awesome? If you honestly have to ask that question, you are not fit for what it takes to win. Winning requires failure.

If I offended you, I’m not sorry. You need to keep your job, play it safe, and do what you do best…working for someone else. There is nothing wrong with that. Not everyone is built to push the envelope to the point of literally breaking bones – back in my racing days, if you hadn’t broken a bone you got weird looks like, “You are a racer, no way, shut up!”.

If you’ve decided to keep reading this and you’re not totally pissed off, let’s be honest about something. Failure is brutal and more often than not, it hurts like hell. Some of the worst pain you’ve ever felt. Sometimes it’s even so bad that it takes you to your knees crying and weeping like a little baby – I’ve been there. Not because of physical pain, but more because of mental and emotional pain. It’s cool to man up and cry….I won’t judge you.

In my racing days we used to have a saying, “If you’re not falling down, you’re not going fast”. It’s true. This meant that if you were playing it safe and not pushing the envelope then you probably weren’t winning races. You were losing races. See, the guys and girls who gave it all they had and took changes won the races. And, the races they didn’t win, they went down hard, got back up, and kept riding.

Winning is hard, failing is hard, but it’s just what has to happen if you want to win. You can’t be afraid to push the envelope and get a little nuts. Yeah, you will fail and it will hurt like hell. Just get back up, learn from it, and move on.

In my racing days, I took some bad crashes where I broke bones, messed up organs, and busted up my face. But, it never stopped me from getting right back on the bike and having a good time.

Take some chances, push the envelope, get nuts, and do it now before you end up living some boring ass life.

Have a great week friends!

 

Epically failing on purpose

Are you afraid to epically fail? Not me, I epic fail on purpose. We need more people willing to take risks and epic fail on purpose. Well, epic fails that don’t totally wipe us out, but that make us bolder and more confident in our abilities. Epic fails that teach us lessons about what works and what doesn’t.

Epic failure is something I enjoy very much. Why? Because, each time I fall down and scrape up my knees I learn something very valuable that I wouldn’t have learned before. I learn how far I can go, how high I can jump, and how much money it’s going to cost!

When I fail, it moves me away from what doesn’t work and closer to what does. I like the sound of that – moving closer to what works. We all want to know and understand the things that work, right? But, how can you learn the things that work until we’ve tried and epically failed at the things that don’t work.

Think experiments. We may try hundreds, if not thousands of experiments until we find a solution. The same is true with projects, ideas, startups, dating, and the million other things we try to figure out in life. But, we have to be willing to epically fail at these things.

Parents don’t always teach us this, schools screw it up, and so do your bosses. Don’t listen to these safe boring people, they are going nowhere. You need to epically fail at things, it’s part of the learning experience. You can do it, epic fail. Just don’t wipe yourself out!

 

It’s one thing to set goals, it’s another to take action

Every year, right around this time everyone starts setting goals. Not everyone I guess, just the people who want anything out of life.

I really enjoy the process of setting goals. In fact, this is what I’m working on this week. I’m taking this years (2011) goals and giving them a good audit. What went right, what went wrong, and what can I do better this coming year.

2011 was a good year for me. Actually, it was an awesome year for me! It was a year of reflection, growth, and tapping into who God wants me to be. I spent time going in one direction, turned around and went another, and finally after years of trying different roads, I feel like I’m going in the right direction. 2012 is going to be a great year….I can feel it!!!

If you’re afraid to travel down different roads, you might not ever find the road you’re supposed to be traveling down.

With a new year just ahead, people get fired up. They want to put the past year behind them and start fresh.

Note: Whether it was a good year or a bad year, take it and build on it. Don’t let it go to waste.

People set goals for everything: 

I want to lose weight.

I want to exercise more.

I want to further my relationship and walk with God.

I want to read more.

I want to start a business.

I want to raise money for my startup.

I want to be a better parent.

I want, I want, I want.

The problem with setting goals is that you can’t just set goals, you have to take action. The difference between someone who accomplishes their goals and someone who doesn’t, is action. And not just “one time” kind of action, daily action that moves you closer to reaching your goals.

What is a goal if it is never accomplished? How about just a goal. Don’t just set goals, take action and move your goal down the field and into the end zone where it belongs.

Make 2012 a year of action. Go.

 

FACE TO FACE

As human beings, we are wired toward interacting (in person) and learning from one another, an easy thing to forget these days now that we have technology that can do pretty much everything we need.

Think about it, we have skype, screen share, social networking: linkedin, twitter, facebook, email, iPhone apps, facetime, virtual assistant, you name it it’s been created or it’s in the process of being created.

In spite of all great technology, things get done face to face. Technology may empower us to get more done faster, but the rubber meets the road when people get together and hash things out in person.

You can probably tell, I am a huge advocate of in person interaction regardless of how unproductive it sometimes seems to be. People can say and think what they want, but people have evolved over many, many years to be efficient at working with, arguing, and talking over ideas and pursuits with people, face to face. Without these face to face meetings would we be where we are at today? Absolutely not.

I love social networking tools and remote technology, but they are nowhere near as efficient as meeting up in person and jamming it out.

So the next time you have the opportunity to meet in person over skype or some other tool, grab your stuff and head out the door. You will be surprised with how much more you can accomplish.

Also, as a reminder add an action step to your calendar each week that says, “Talk and interact with humans in person”.

 

GUIDE TO A GAME CHANGERS LIFE

Do you want to be a game changer? Are you already a game changer? Either way, we need more game changers in the world today. We need people just like you to step outside the tent and do something so big, so impactful that it literally changes the landscape.

There isn’t nearly enough game changers in the world today. Let me rephrase that, there aren’t nearly enough people stepping outside their comfy tent to activate their game changer. Everyone has it inside of them they just need to activate it. I am writing this to help you activate your game changer – that is if you are serious about being a game changer.

No rehashing of old outdated ideas. I am talking to game changers: people who want to come up with something new, something brilliant, something game changing. A game changer doesn’t maintain the status quo, they blow stuff up and get excited about the outcome.

If your sitting at your desk reading this right now thinking, why can I not be a game changer. You can, and I am going to show you how. It’s not nearly as hard as you think. In fact, I’ll let you in on a little secret, it’s simple. All it takes to be a game changer is determination, insanity, and faith that you can do the impossible.

I’ve put together a guide for those of you who want to be a game changer. I only want people who are serious. If you’re not serious, please move along and don’t wast anyone’s time.

Now, if you are serious you can Click here to download the Guide to a Game Changers Life.

After you’ve downloaded the document, read through each question, and fill in your answers in the space provided. Simple. After you’ve filled out the doc, and you 100% believe in what you’ve placed there, it’s time to post it everywhere.

Post it on your bathroom mirror, on your dash board in your car, and anywhere else you look everyday. If you truly want to be a game changer you need to keep your game changing guide in front of you. It is also a god idea to read through your game changers guide each week to make sure that you are on track and holding yourself accountable.

Game changers do the things that others aren’t willing to do. Go and be a game changer.

 

ITS TIME TO PERSEVERE

It’s time to persevere, and there is no better time than now. Why? Well, let me quick tell you why. The new year is just around the corner and it’s time that we rid all challenges, difficulties, and any past failures and move forward with a positive attitude and outlook on the future.

Today, around the world there are thousands if not millions of innovative leaders that are struggling to do good, meaningful work in a time of overbearing bureaucracy, horrible leadership,  and non stop failing solutions.

If you look around, you will see that everyone is working harder, and in most cases, in greater isolation than ever before.

Between the fast pace of work and life, family, balance, and the fear and anxiety, it is becoming almost impossible to have the energy and enthusiasm to keep going. However, this also means that everyone must stand up, brush off the years of good efforts that have been taken away by events beyond our control, and lets continue our efforts to do and achieve great things despite all difficulties, and failures.

What do you say? Let’s go!

 

PAINFULLY OBVIOUS CONCLUSION

Over the years, I’ve learned a painfully obvious conclusion – and this is after God and the people who love me were speaking to me the whole time. What I’ve learned, and maybe you can relate, is that when I try to make things happen on my own, my accomplishments end up being nothing more than insignificant.

Tip and fact: Self made people don’t make much of an impact.

If you want to be a great leader and make an impact while you’re here – for the short time that we are, be sure to surround yourself with amazing people who lift you up and help you be successful. You could be the most talented person in the world, however without the help of others your success is limited.

Whatever you believe, your influence springs from an awareness of your dependence and a willingness to express thanks to those who help you rise up and do great things.

For me, my visions are much larger than my ability, which leaves me two options: give up or go find help – I choose to go find help and go after my visions. More and more each day, I learn how important and thankful I am to have such amazing people in my life that allow me to do incredible things. And without these people I would be nothing. For this I thank all of these people for helping make my dreams a reality.

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What about you?

Are you trying to be self made?