Learning to say the right things to my wife

As I strive to be a better man I’m learning to say the right things to my wife. It’s easy to say the wrong thing – we as men do it all the time, but it becomes WAY more difficult to say the right things.

  1. Every morning I wake up and let my wife know that I love her: Yeah, it sounds simple, but when life starts to happen it becomes easy to forget.
  2. You’re smart, confident, and beautiful: By saying this regularly it builds security, affirmation, and confidence in her. I also tell my son this same thing pretty much daily. The only change is hansome.
  3. I was wrong, I’m sorry, will you forgive me: I want Sarah to know that I’m man enough to admit when I’m wrong. I want her to see that I’m not to good to say that I’m sorry. And that I always seek forgiveness right away.
  4. So, is this what your saying? I want Sarah to know that I hear her, respect her, and I value what she has to say.
  5. How can I be a better man for you and our family? I want her to know that I’m striving daily to be the man she and our family deserve.
  6. I want to spend more time together. What do we need to do to make this happen? I want Sarah to know that our time together is special to me. And, I want Daniel to see that we love and value one another.
  7. What do you think about this? It’s important to me that I include Sarah in my decisions because everything I do affects her and our family. I never want her to feel like she isn’t a part of what I do.
  8. Can we sit down and go over our family financials? I try to be intentional about how we manage our money as a family. I want us to be secure first and then plan for the lifestyle and future that we want to have.
  9. I’ll take care of this or that so that you don’t have to worry about it. This could mean taking care of our son so she can focus on school or something else. The key is that it shows that I support her dreams and goals.
  10. Call me anytime: I like Sarah to know that I’m always accessible and there for her to talk to. If I’m in a meeting or something I usually will step away and take her call or try to call her right back.

How about you? Are you saying the right things to your wife?

From the heart

Throwing out some love this morning.

1. Don’t go to college because you think this is the right thing to do. You have no idea what the hell you want to be anyways. If you’re going to do anything, I say travel the world and live out of a backpack meeting people and collecting experiences for a year or two. Work random ass jobs and have fun. Or start building a startup. I could careless, just do something.

2. Don’t try to meet a hot chick just because your friends have hot chicks. Wait for the right girl to come along. Yeah, you should play the field, but don’t settle down till you meet the right one. Find your warrior princess like I did.

3. Your goal shouldn’t be just to graduate. If you’re going to graduate, graduate with something you can use.

4. Don’t get a job find a passion. Jobs are for people who are depressed, divorced, and pissed off. Find a passion and live it out everyday in everything that you do.

5. Get married when your ready. Don’t get married because anyone is forcing you. If your friends are married great, this doesn’t mean you have to follow. Do it when your ready. Who knows, maybe there are some things you want to accomplish first.

6. Houses are a big responsibility and they will tie you down. You have to mow the lawn, take care of the things that breaks, and more importantly, you will feel stuck. It’s not the cool thing to do to own a home.

7. Dogs: Yeah they’re cute and fun to play with, but they are a big responsibility. Everytime you want to go somewhere or travel you have to find someone to watch them. Do you want this hassle and worry? I learned the hard way. I used to have dogs and they quickly became a pain – I no longer have dogs.

8. I have a little boy do any time. This is one of the best things that has ever happened to me and I don’t even have the kid yet. However, don’t force it, let it happen on its own. God knows when your ready.

9. Divorce sucks ass. I don’t believe in it. You make a commitment and you figure the shit out. My wife and I have almost killed each other so many times I can’t even count. But today, she is my cheerleader and I love her with all my heart. Appreciate your wives and tell them how much you love them everyday.

Don’t live the same story everyone else lives and end up depressed and lonely. Game change this shit. Live different. Be different. And enjoy every second you have on this earth.

There it is, from the heart.

 

9 THINGS YOU SHOULD GIVE A SHIT ABOUT

Two weeks ago I walked into an office for a meeting and there it was, one of the greatest signs that I have yet to see. It said, “Give a shit”. I thought to myself, this is brilliant and very fitting for where people are at today, they just don’t really care.

When I asked about the sign, one of the employees at the company said that just a few days before our meeting the president of the company printed out tons of these signs and went around sticking them everywhere in the office.

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WHY I MOVED TO CALIFORNIA

For several weeks now maybe months people have asked, “why California? Why do you want to move there?” These are all great questions and I’m very happy that people have asked them.

I’ve been pretty vague on my answers though. Not because I wanted to be rude (it probably came across that way) but because I didn’t want people trying to sway me from a decision that I felt God leading me. I think often times we make decisions not based on our inner voice from God, but based on the people around us. I wasn’t going to be that guy anymore. When God speaks we need to listen!

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MY 6 STEP PROCESS TO DETERMINE IF THE TIMING IS RIGHT

Is the timing right? I don’t know, you will have to ask yourself this question.

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Timing is one of the most important questions you can ask yourself before jumping into anything in your life. Whether it be a marriage, kids, new career, starting a business, or making a move, it really doesn’t matter, just make sure you ask the question. You will be amazed at what you can learn when you actually take the time to ask the question.

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SUCCESS, FAILURE, AND THE REALITY OF WHAT IT TAKES TO ACCOMPLISH ANYTHING IN YOUR LIFE.

I remember growing up always thinking to myself and asking the question, “What does it take?” I am still asking this question.

I would ask and still ask:

What does it take to be a great athlete?

What does it take to be a professional athlete?

What does it take to start a business?

What does it take to be a great husband?

What does it take to be a great father?

What does it take to be a great leader. All questions with no answers.

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RIDICULOUSLY WEIRD IS ALWAYS BETTER

Normal people suck. Why do normal people suck? Because they do what normal people do. What do normal people do? They sit around, commit adultery, steal, have idols, eat to much, drink to much, and end up never really doing anything with their lives or in this world. This is pretty normal these days. This is what normal people do.

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Divorce rates are at the highest they have ever been, depression rates are sky rocketing, and we treat suicide as something people do all the time and it’s ok. None of these things are ok. In fact, everyone should be very pissed off right now because we have gotten to the point where we think these things are normal.

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THE FIRST DOOR NEVER SEEMS TO OPEN

Do you ever just feel like giving up? Have things gotten so tough for you that you’re right there? The last few weeks I have felt this way. Several opportunities have fallen through and left me  praying and asking God, “What are you doing?”

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With the economy and everything that is happening in the world, I know it’s an easy place to be -wanting to give up. What I can tell you is, we must keep on knocking becasue its in our faith and will that a door will be opened to us.

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WHERE DO YOU LIVE?

I have been thinking through this idea of the tangible and intangible realms and how they are connected. I really started thinking about this idea about 3-4 years ago when social media started to take place of the tangible realm. Maybe not 100% but it was definitely starting to have a pretty serious affect on it. And still does today. Can we change this? I think so.

People all over the world connecting in the intangible realm, but never bringing it back to the tangible realm to experience reality. I remember watching everyday people, not companies or influential leaders on facebook and twitter with two, three, and four thousand friends. Seriously?

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