Will your achieve your goals in 2014? Maybe these can help.

Use some of these to help you achieve your goals in 2014.

  1. The first person you need to change is your self.
  2. Make family first – they are the only thing you really have at the end of the day.
  3. You have to be the one to find a way to win.
  4. Own your crap and fix it. No one else is going to.
  5. Don’t try and be awesome, just be you and work hard daily.
  6. Stop talking about other people. You are just as messed up.
  7. You have nothing to prove to anyone, but you.
  8. Stop holding  yourself back
  9. Stress is real. Deal with it in a way that makes more sense in your mind.
  10. Your always going to have worries they will just be different.
  11. Stop talking about the shitty place you are and start talking more about the place you want to be.
  12. Get out on the field and play the game. You don’t win from inside the building or on the bench.
  13. Stop trying to be a leader and just do your work. Leaders always rise to the top by their actions.
  14. Only have meetings if they have meaning. Meetings suck the life out of you.
  15. Don’t make decisions out of emotions. If you’re emotional walk away and come back later.
  16. Give money away if you have it.
  17. Go volunteer. Do something for someone other than yourself.
  18. Realty check. This isn’t the [ insert name here ] show.
  19. Be nice to people and say thank you.
  20. Be understanding. We all f*** up. We are human, right?
  21. Get yourself some zen mediation. It will change your life.
  22. Ask for serious feedback and think before you respond.
  23. Be a man or woman. They have left the world and now we have a bunch of douchebags.
  24. Be confident
  25. Focus on growth in everything.
  26. Get lots of sleep.
  27. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself. Why do it? You have enough pressure on yourself.
  28. Exercise. It makes you feel awesome!
  29. Get shit done.
  30. love people.

Don’t pressure yourself out

Are you carrying the world around on your shoulders? Are you starting to tire? Are you ready to throw in the towel and say f*** it? Before you do, let me share a little wisdom with you.

I to was once this person that carried the world around on my shoulders. I was stressed out, or pressured out – whatever the case, I was doing this to myself.

Pressure will weigh you down, it will break you down, it will wipe you out – you don’t want to get to this point – I’ve been there and it sucks ass.

Pressure – the stuff we put on ourselves to perform or deliver can actually be a bad thing…a really bad thing. I’m not saying some pressure isn’t good, but what I am saying is that too much pressure is not good at all. It can make you angry, sad, or push you to the breaking point of depression – this is where it lead me.

What I’ve personally learned over the years is to relax a little, have some fun, and don’t put so much damn pressure on myself. Just be yourself, laugh, screw up once in a while, and do not take yourself to seriously.

Life is too short to put all this pressure on yourself.

When I reflect back on my different careers – racing motorcycles and startups, I found that I always performed better when I was just out doing something I love.

Today, I am happy to say that I wake up without an alarm clock, I work out, I take some time for me (Everyone needs me time), and I enjoy the rest of my day working on startups – all this I do with a smile.

I promise you, you will perform better without putting too much pressure on yourself. Its easier to focus and not second guess yourself when you feel less pressure. Just have fun, enjoy doing something you love, and focus on the experience, not just the results.

Like most problems in life this is another one we create ourselves. Get rid of some of this pressure and start enjoying the ride.

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What about you? 

Are you putting too much pressure on yourself? Are you about to crack?

 

Why realistic optimism?

Over the years I’ve been an overly optimistic person not always looking at the reality of the situation – it got me into trouble more than once. If you know me personally, you can probably appreciate the above statement. This has since changed (In the last year or so) and it’s treating me very well.

I was the fired up dude drinking the Kool aid not willing to face and embrace that which was real. Why? I don’t know why, really. Maybe  the thought of failure scared the shit out of me. So, instead of focusing on that, I would just focus on being optimistic and hoping and wishing for the best.

I was also raised that way. My mom is probably one of the most optimistic people you will ever meet. And, she was the one making the Kool aid!!! Haha.

Looking back, I use to say things like this, “Everything is going to be fine, we just need to keep going!”. Not taking the time to analyze the problem or challenge and build “several” plans that could be executed. This was so stupid of me to say these kind of things. Idiotic. If I would have only been more realistic with a dash of optimism. Not to drown on that though. There is a fix.

I haven’t given up on optimism, I’ve just decided to lean on the side of realistic optimism where today I say things like, “We are up against some serious challenges and here is how we propose to overcome them. We are not sure any of this will work, these are just the plans we’ve come up with thus far to address them. And, I do believe that together, as a team, as passionate warriors, (You need to be a warrior if you want to be in business today) we will meet these obstacles and challenges and find a way over them. I don’t doubt it for a second.”

This is what it looks like to express realistic optimism. Feels just as good, and, it is realistic!

Have fun and keep it real friends!

 

Your Inner Persistence

Ever since I was youngster, my Dad trained me to be persistent. To never give up. To fight for what I believe in. And to go for it. I’m very thankful he drove these points home and I carry them with me today. Persistence is a big part of my life and it should be a big part of yours as well.

The days of racing and crashing in the first corner and my Dad screaming, “Get up boy and get going, you can fight to the front”, are all part of my inner persistence being developed and honed.

All while he was screaming, I was thinking in my head, “How am I going to fight to the front when I’m in dead last place?”. It’s possible. I won several races by getting right back up and fighting to the front and I have the trophies and stories to prove it.

This inner persistence remains with me today and it’s stronger than ever. It’s what wakes me up everyday to pursue my dreams, my relationships, my companies, my investments, my projects, and all the things I wholeheartedly believe in.

My mentality is this: never give up on anything….no matter what. And, do the things that others aren’t willing to do so that one day you can wake up and appreciate that you did it.

Do the right thing and stay at it. Don’t give up, don’t back down, and don’t take no for answer.

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How about you? 

Are you developing your inner persistence?

 

It’s one thing to set goals, it’s another to take action

Every year, right around this time everyone starts setting goals. Not everyone I guess, just the people who want anything out of life.

I really enjoy the process of setting goals. In fact, this is what I’m working on this week. I’m taking this years (2011) goals and giving them a good audit. What went right, what went wrong, and what can I do better this coming year.

2011 was a good year for me. Actually, it was an awesome year for me! It was a year of reflection, growth, and tapping into who God wants me to be. I spent time going in one direction, turned around and went another, and finally after years of trying different roads, I feel like I’m going in the right direction. 2012 is going to be a great year….I can feel it!!!

If you’re afraid to travel down different roads, you might not ever find the road you’re supposed to be traveling down.

With a new year just ahead, people get fired up. They want to put the past year behind them and start fresh.

Note: Whether it was a good year or a bad year, take it and build on it. Don’t let it go to waste.

People set goals for everything: 

I want to lose weight.

I want to exercise more.

I want to further my relationship and walk with God.

I want to read more.

I want to start a business.

I want to raise money for my startup.

I want to be a better parent.

I want, I want, I want.

The problem with setting goals is that you can’t just set goals, you have to take action. The difference between someone who accomplishes their goals and someone who doesn’t, is action. And not just “one time” kind of action, daily action that moves you closer to reaching your goals.

What is a goal if it is never accomplished? How about just a goal. Don’t just set goals, take action and move your goal down the field and into the end zone where it belongs.

Make 2012 a year of action. Go.

 

SCREW THOSE WHO SAY YOU CAN’T

Do you have people in your life that tell you, you can’t? How does this make you feel?

The reason people will tell you that you can’t is because in reality they are the one’s that can’t. Instead of them getting off their ass and going out there and trying something, they would rather sit around and tell you, you can’t. These people suck in my book. You know what I tell these people? Suck it.

Quit listening to the negative Nancies and dream killers and start listening to God and your Gut. You can do anything that you put your mind to and there is nothing, and I mean nothing that you can’t do in this world.

As we come up on 2012, I challenge you to put all naysayers aside, dream big, and go for it. Yes, you are going to fail miserably (I’ve failed so many times I lost count) but that’s just part of the game. You will get back up, brush yourself off and keep going. And in the end, you can look back and be thankful that you stepped out and did something incredible.

 

TODAY IS NOT THE DAY TO GIVE UP

When you believe in something to the point that you are willing to lose everything and keep going, you are a warrior who has made a decision to persevere believing that all things are possible. Have you made this decision that no matter what the odds, no matter what the challenges – even losing everything, that you will persevere chasing after your goals?

I would say that perseverance is perhaps the most important skill that every human needs to develop as it is essential to reaching any sort of destination whether that be: a personal goal of losing weight, starting a company, raising capital for your company, getting a piece of technology off the ground, a long-term friendship, your relationship with God, and last but not least marriage – this takes serious perseverance.

John Maxwell says a quote that I think is perfect for this, “Success seems to be largely a matter of hanging on after others have let go.” Are you willing to hang on after others have let go? When you start to lose your grip, your hands are almost bleeding, and your at the point of packing up your bags and going home, are you going to deny all of these things and stay the course of action knowing that your destination just might be right up ahead?

Today is not the day to give up….on anything, and I mean anything, today is the day that you put your head down, build a plan, and keep charging forward – this just might be the best decision you ever make that will change your life forever. Now GO.

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DISCUSSION QUESTION: 

Perseverance is not easy, but it’s worth it. So, are you going to be someone who hangs on, or are you going to be someone who, like most people, lets go?

 

BEFORE YOU GET ALL HOT AND HORNY ABOUT SOCIAL MEDIA, READ THIS

Organizations everyday, all over the world know they they need to be on top of social media and they are already investing more and more money into it, however they still have some reservations about ROI. Why the reservations about ROI? Because of the fact that there isn’t a standard means for measurement – you have some companies tracking traffic, while others are tracking short term sales.

Just in the past few weeks, I’ve had several executives ask me questions about effectiveness, ROI, goals, metrics, monetization……what should we do?

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