Learning to say the right things to my wife

As I strive to be a better man I’m learning to say the right things to my wife. It’s easy to say the wrong thing – we as men do it all the time, but it becomes WAY more difficult to say the right things.

  1. Every morning I wake up and let my wife know that I love her: Yeah, it sounds simple, but when life starts to happen it becomes easy to forget.
  2. You’re smart, confident, and beautiful: By saying this regularly it builds security, affirmation, and confidence in her. I also tell my son this same thing pretty much daily. The only change is hansome.
  3. I was wrong, I’m sorry, will you forgive me: I want Sarah to know that I’m man enough to admit when I’m wrong. I want her to see that I’m not to good to say that I’m sorry. And that I always seek forgiveness right away.
  4. So, is this what your saying? I want Sarah to know that I hear her, respect her, and I value what she has to say.
  5. How can I be a better man for you and our family? I want her to know that I’m striving daily to be the man she and our family deserve.
  6. I want to spend more time together. What do we need to do to make this happen? I want Sarah to know that our time together is special to me. And, I want Daniel to see that we love and value one another.
  7. What do you think about this? It’s important to me that I include Sarah in my decisions because everything I do affects her and our family. I never want her to feel like she isn’t a part of what I do.
  8. Can we sit down and go over our family financials? I try to be intentional about how we manage our money as a family. I want us to be secure first and then plan for the lifestyle and future that we want to have.
  9. I’ll take care of this or that so that you don’t have to worry about it. This could mean taking care of our son so she can focus on school or something else. The key is that it shows that I support her dreams and goals.
  10. Call me anytime: I like Sarah to know that I’m always accessible and there for her to talk to. If I’m in a meeting or something I usually will step away and take her call or try to call her right back.

How about you? Are you saying the right things to your wife?

Will your achieve your goals in 2014? Maybe these can help.

Use some of these to help you achieve your goals in 2014.

  1. The first person you need to change is your self.
  2. Make family first – they are the only thing you really have at the end of the day.
  3. You have to be the one to find a way to win.
  4. Own your crap and fix it. No one else is going to.
  5. Don’t try and be awesome, just be you and work hard daily.
  6. Stop talking about other people. You are just as messed up.
  7. You have nothing to prove to anyone, but you.
  8. Stop holding  yourself back
  9. Stress is real. Deal with it in a way that makes more sense in your mind.
  10. Your always going to have worries they will just be different.
  11. Stop talking about the shitty place you are and start talking more about the place you want to be.
  12. Get out on the field and play the game. You don’t win from inside the building or on the bench.
  13. Stop trying to be a leader and just do your work. Leaders always rise to the top by their actions.
  14. Only have meetings if they have meaning. Meetings suck the life out of you.
  15. Don’t make decisions out of emotions. If you’re emotional walk away and come back later.
  16. Give money away if you have it.
  17. Go volunteer. Do something for someone other than yourself.
  18. Realty check. This isn’t the [ insert name here ] show.
  19. Be nice to people and say thank you.
  20. Be understanding. We all f*** up. We are human, right?
  21. Get yourself some zen mediation. It will change your life.
  22. Ask for serious feedback and think before you respond.
  23. Be a man or woman. They have left the world and now we have a bunch of douchebags.
  24. Be confident
  25. Focus on growth in everything.
  26. Get lots of sleep.
  27. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself. Why do it? You have enough pressure on yourself.
  28. Exercise. It makes you feel awesome!
  29. Get shit done.
  30. love people.

What gets me horny

I’m horny about a lot of things these days. Because of this, I thought I would put together a list and share it with you. I don’t know what makes you horny, but maybe this will motivate you to start thinking about it.

  1. Family: Family is first in my book. I’m trying to invest in my family, spend time, appreciate one another, and ultimately have a fun together.
  2. Quality Friendships: I have a few people who I try to pour into and I feel like in return they are pouring right back into me. You can’t pour into everyone, so pick a few good friends and build each other up.
  3. Exploring new things: I don’t care what it is, I want to explore it: canoe trip, hiking, marathons, smoking cigars…bring it on andlet’s try it out.
  4. Motivating people to do shit with their lives, take risks and live a little. I feel like this has always kind of been my thing, but today, more than ever you will hear me talking about this.
  5. Co-founder and entrepreneurial relationships: I can’t be more thankful for all my co-founders, equity partners, and people involved in my deals. For the last few years, I’ve been intentional about seeking out entrepreneurs who can see eye to eye beyond just, let’s make some money. We appreciate family, we take risks, we seek new experiences, and above all else, we are friends and there for one another.
  6. Startup communities: Now being involved with Startup America Partnership for almost a year, I am having the time of my life – It’s so cool to see all the different startup communities evolve and grow.
  7. Venture Capital: I’m talking with a few folks now about putting together a fund. I am no experienced VC, but I can put a team together that knows their shit. This is what I’m looking at right now – putting together a stellar team that can invest in startups and entrepreneurs that want to have fun, disrupt, and make some money along the way.
  8. Game changing startups: If you’re trying to do the same shit as someone else, I don’t care. If you think you got something cool and different, this gets me excited. Why put a ton a time into something that is the same as the next guys stuff?
  9. Accelerators: I think accelerators rock. I’m not involved in one myself, nor have I been involved in one. However, I sit back, watch, listen, and appreciate all the work that accelerators are doing. We need more of them. The best part about accelerators are the mentors and the community that forms.
  10. Crowd funding: I am a co-founder of a startup called Fundmypark. We are the Kickstarter for all things parks and recreation. Were already seeing some good success with this project. Beyond this, I’m just interested in all the crowdfunding activity going down.
  11. Branded entertainment: I’ve watched more and more young people change their content consuming behavior and this gets me horny. Hence the reason I’m a part of a new deal being put together in Hollywood to enter this space. We are still trying to figure stuff out, but we are close.
  12. Digital content and entertainment: The smartest thing people can do with content today is build in the brands. No, not product placement. I’m talking about unique branded integration that tells a story. Look at Nike, Redbull, and others – they get it.
  13. New retail and restaurant plays: I enjoy seeing people disrupt this industry. I see people tying mobile into the experience. I also have seen good uses of social. It’s all interesting to me. Just watch as more and more entrepreneurs come up with unique ways to mod this industry and integrate new forms of tech.
  14. Social Media: All forms, all uses, case studies, you name it, I’m following it and paying attention. It’s also important because if you’re not building social into everything you do today…you are an idiot.
  15. Social Commerce: Lots of people are toying with this (This includes me) and I think it’s awesome. Do I think this space is early still? Yes. Do I see it evolving and eventually becoming a very important part of our lives? Yes.
  16. Mobile: First off, I have two mobile startups I’m in right now. So, this means I’m paying attention to facts, statistics, apps, use cases…..I’m on top of it all.
  17. Fashion/Lifestyle apparel: I’m an advisor to a brand called Citizenshirt. We are gearing up right now to do some pretty grass roots, authentic projects. Watch us build this into a mainstream brand.
  18. Social Responsibility: If you’re not on top of this, don’t plan on being in business long – this is on top of the millennia’s priority list.
  19. Action sports: I’ve always been and always will love action sports – it’s in my blood.
  20. Any good example of strategy: social, analytical, marketing, management, etc.
  21. Furniture: I have a furniture startup that I’m in. The company is called Think Tables. Yes, we are starting out with writable tables, but we have big plans….stay tuned.
  22. Embedded software: Software is being embedded into everything. 5-10 years from now, it will be hard to find anything without tech embedded into it.
  23. Hardware companies: Hardware is something I’m looking at pretty hard. There are lots of startups and entrepreneurs out there today building hardware products. This excites me. I don’t know what I will do about it, but it will be something – I will ride this wave.
  24. Personal branding: With all that I do, it needs to come back and support my personal brand. What is my personal brand? Motivating startups and entrepreneurs to make stuff and things happen. If it doesn’t fit with my personal brand or the projects I’m involved with, I don’t do it.

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How about you? 

What gets you horny today?

 

Family Is First

Over a year ago my wife and I packed up our shit and moved to California from the mitten state – this is Michigan for those of you who don’t know it as the mitten. I was over MI. I couldn’t get out of the state fast enough. I was sick of the weather, the startup ecosystem, the capital, it just wasn’t what I was looking for – I learned this the hard way. Not that there aren’t great people doing awesome things in MI, it just didn’t fit and jive with me personally.

While in California, I traveled, I networked, and got super plugged into all the startup communities there. I spent time in San Diego, LA, San Francisco, the Valley, and a few other smaller communities like Santa Barbara, Carlsbad, Orange County, and a few others.

I was looking for more high growth startup stuff and an environment that was conducive to this. I wanted to plug into a system of badass entrepreneurs with vision, character, and a passion to make shit happen. Oh, and they value failure as a key driver to their community.

Moving away from MI was one of the best decisions I ever made. It brought me closer to my wife and my family, I became the one of the leaders of Startup California, which is a region of Startup America, It lead me to all the startups I’m involved with, I met some incredible people, and we found out that we were having Danny Beckett the third. What more could I ask for? Honestly, nothing. I am very, very thankful.

However, after we found out that we were having little guy there was something missing. Something just didn’t feel right. Something was keeping us up all night. What was it? It was family. Family has always been and always will be first in my life – if it’s not I hope someone steps up and slaps me. I say it in my bio, family is first, and after that, I’m all startups and business.

Because family is first, my wife moved back to MI about 3-4 months ago to be with our families during and after the pregnancy. I remained in Mountain View for just a little while longer until I couldn’t handle it any longer and I wanted to be with Sarah and my family too.

Today I spend 2-3 weeks in MI with my family and 2-3 weeks traveling back and forth to Mountain View, LA, SD, CA, New York, CO, and wherever else I need to be. It’s a little crazy at times, but it works for us and we are happier than we’ve ever been.

Here is what I’ve learned. Home is the place where your family is. You will journey out, you will try new things, and you will meet kickass people from around the world, but what will never change is that place you call home.

I leave you with this; move away, try new things, take risks, meet new people, discover the undiscovered, and don’t settle for anything less than awesome. But, while you’re out and about, just remember where home and family is.

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How about you? 

What’s your story?

 

HAPPY TURKEY DAY 2011!

Today is Turkey day in the US – that is what I call it, and everyone else, well, they call it Thanksgiving Day. As a result, I will be taking the day off from anything that involves not spending time with family and friends and reflecting on how thankful I am for all the blessings in my life.

I do want to take a moment to say, “have a wonderful day with your family and friends and truly take the time to give thanks for all the blessings you have been given.”

God bless and Happy Thanksgiving to everyone!

 

PAINFULLY OBVIOUS CONCLUSION

Over the years, I’ve learned a painfully obvious conclusion – and this is after God and the people who love me were speaking to me the whole time. What I’ve learned, and maybe you can relate, is that when I try to make things happen on my own, my accomplishments end up being nothing more than insignificant.

Tip and fact: Self made people don’t make much of an impact.

If you want to be a great leader and make an impact while you’re here – for the short time that we are, be sure to surround yourself with amazing people who lift you up and help you be successful. You could be the most talented person in the world, however without the help of others your success is limited.

Whatever you believe, your influence springs from an awareness of your dependence and a willingness to express thanks to those who help you rise up and do great things.

For me, my visions are much larger than my ability, which leaves me two options: give up or go find help – I choose to go find help and go after my visions. More and more each day, I learn how important and thankful I am to have such amazing people in my life that allow me to do incredible things. And without these people I would be nothing. For this I thank all of these people for helping make my dreams a reality.

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What about you?

Are you trying to be self made?

 

 

ATTITUDE, AFTER ALL, IS EVERYTHING

You know those people who are always in a good mood and it never fails that they have something positive to say? What do you think of those people? Are you one of those people?

A couple of days ago my friend Mary sent me a story and I thought that it needed to be shared with others as a way to encourage people to choose their attitude daily. It’s a short read.

John is the kind of guy you love to hate. He is always in a good mood and always has something positive to say. When someone would ask him how he was doing, he would reply, ‘If I were any better, I would be twins!’

He was a natural motivator. If an employee was having a bad day, John was there telling the employee how to look on the positive side of the situation.

Seeing this style really made me curious, so one day I went up and asked him, ‘I don’t get it! You can’t be a positive person all of the time. How do you do it?’

He replied, ‘Each morning I wake up and say to myself, you have two choices today. You can choose to be in a good mood or .. you can choose to be in a bad mood. I choose to be in a good mood.’

Each time something bad happens, I can choose to be a victim or…I can choose to learn from it. I choose to learn from it.

Every time someone comes to me complaining, I can choose to accept their complaining or… I can point out the positive side of life. I choose the positive side of life.

‘Yeah, right, it’s not that easy,’ I protested.

‘Yes, it is,’ he said. ‘Life is all about choices. When you cut away all the junk, every situation is a choice. You choose how you react to situations.

You choose how people affect your mood.

You choose to be in a good mood or bad mood. The bottom line: It’s your choice how you live your life.’

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How about you? 

What’s your attitude?

 

 

9 THINGS YOU SHOULD GIVE A SHIT ABOUT

Two weeks ago I walked into an office for a meeting and there it was, one of the greatest signs that I have yet to see. It said, “Give a shit”. I thought to myself, this is brilliant and very fitting for where people are at today, they just don’t really care.

When I asked about the sign, one of the employees at the company said that just a few days before our meeting the president of the company printed out tons of these signs and went around sticking them everywhere in the office.

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IS IT TIME TO HIT THE RESET BUTTON? HERE ARE 7 STEPS YOU SHOULD TAKE

You know what I love about video games? They have a reset button. It doesn’t matter where you’re at in the game, or what you’ve done, all you have to do push that little button on the controller and whalla! The game resets and you are off to a whole new start. Now how cool is that?

I’m not a big gamer or anything, but I do love Super Mario Brothers. A few years ago when one of the new versions came out, I literally sat there and played until I beat the whole game. I had blisters on my hands, and my eyes were bulging out of my head!

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