Lets be real honest here for a second. Startups are fucking tough and the emotions that they cause often times seem unbearable. They make you want to give up. They drive you to the point of wanting to rip your hair out.
The truth is, you are not alone (I’m there with you).
These emotions are completely natural and part of the process of developing you into the leader that you need to be for yourself, your family, and your startup.
Question: Think back at the last time you were being screamed at by your customers, employees, or your wife, you worked until you dropped, you ran out of capital, made a stupid decision, or you just pushed yourself to that point of breaking? How did you respond? Are you proud of how you responded? Or do you feel like an idiot?
Emotions are normal…especially for a startup.
The key to being a great startup leader is knowing when to display emotions, when to delay them, and when to put your head down and fight them.
Emotions will do two things to you: 1. Make you better 2. Wreck you. It’s up to you to choose how to deal with your emotions.
Make a decision that the next time you have to deal with emotions (You will) that you will put others first and you will handle them, process them, and allow them to shape you into the leader that you need to be.
The last few months of working on several startup projects with passionate entrepreneurs has caused me to think about this idea of work. And, how do you find work that you love to do so much that you would do it even if you didn’t get paid? Entrepreneurs, you know exactly what I’m talking about here.
This whole process began when I started working on an old project that I quickly became super passionate about again. I was able to answer the question why am I doing this? The why that sometimes gets clouded with the what and how was clearer than ever before – I love building stuff and things: products, teams, companies, and anything that inspires me to take action.
Are you trying to figure out what kind of work you love to do? Does it feel like a struggle? If so, it should. However, don’t lose hope because what you love to do just might be right around the corner.
Finding work that you love is a struggle for…everyone. I’ve struggled with this, my friends have struggled with this, and pretty much everyone I know struggles with this at some point in their life. In fact, most people fail miserably at this.
Nevertheless, if you at least have a destination in sight, you’re more likely to arrive at a place in which work feels more like something you love than work.
Work has to start with a mindset of knowing that you can love work. If you’re able to do this, you are in the homestretch. And, if you can figure out what work you love, you’re more or less there.
It’s time to persevere, and there is no better time than now. Why? Well, let me quick tell you why. The new year is just around the corner and it’s time that we rid all challenges, difficulties, and any past failures and move forward with a positive attitude and outlook on the future.
Today, around the world there are thousands if not millions of innovative leaders that are struggling to do good, meaningful work in a time of overbearing bureaucracy, horrible leadership, and non stop failing solutions.
If you look around, you will see that everyone is working harder, and in most cases, in greater isolation than ever before.
Between the fast pace of work and life, family, balance, and the fear and anxiety, it is becoming almost impossible to have the energy and enthusiasm to keep going. However, this also means that everyone must stand up, brush off the years of good efforts that have been taken away by events beyond our control, and lets continue our efforts to do and achieve great things despite all difficulties, and failures.
What do you say? Let’s go!
I was talking with a friend of mine who owns a business, some real estate, along with a few other things. He went on to tell me that he is sick of having to put on his game face each day. He said, everyday I get up, put on my smile, and go out and be happy for everyone but myself. I am done with this.
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What about me? What if I’m not even happy? What should I do? He said, he just wants to be real and put on whatever face he feels each day. On the outside looking in everyone probably thinks I’m great; I smile, I laugh, and I am always positive. This is the face they see, but on the inside I’m lost, broken, and frustrated. Can I show this face? What would people think of me?