Do you care to much about what people think of you? Do you care so much that it paralyzes you?
I get this. Sometimes when I hear the things that people say about me, it gets me down. But then, I get myself right back up and I think to myself, “why do I care so much about what these people think of me?” I really don’t, I just think that I do.
When I do search for myself or a search around some of the ventures I’ve started in the past, I can find some pretty negative things. Do I allow this is affect me? I shouldn’t and most of the time I don’t. It takes time though and it’s a process of developing “thick skin”. Dave Ramsey talks about all the negative mail he gets everyday – piles of it. James Altucher also talks about all the negative comments you can find online about him.
Here’s the deal. The higher you reach in your leadership and influence, the more people are going to talk about you- both positive and negative. You have to choose what to listen to.
So what do you do with all this crap out there about you? Nothing. Let it happen and let it make you stronger. It is going to hurt, but eventually you will get to a point where you really don’t care. In fact, you might even find it humorous and entertaining – my wife and I laugh all the time about these things.
Don’t stop doing what you do because people have some negative things to say about you. Keep doing it. Don’t revert to doing something else just because people aren’t nice. This is exactly what they want to happen – for you to submit to them and fail. These people are nothing in my book other than motivators. Let them be the same in your book.
The other thing you need to do is hang around people who appreciate you and respect you for what you have to say right now. I’m not saying yes men, just people who love and care about you enough to not talk thrash.
Find good, positive people who inspire you, challenge you, and are always there to lift you up. And for the ones that talk trash….let them be thrash.
How about you?
What do you do when people talk thrash about you?