Recently, my parents after 27 years of marriage decided they would file for a divorce. It was heart breaking for everyone in my family. It wasn’t that we didn’t see it coming, it’s just hard once it actually happens. For us it was like watching someone hang on the monkey bars knowing eventually they would have to let go. They just couldn’t hang on anymore. Well, at least that is what they think.

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Ever since I was a little kid I would get in the middle of my parents fights. I was that little kid that would jump in the middle and say, “Hey, hey what is going on here”. My parents would push me to the side and say, “Stay out of it”. I never really learned how to stay out of it. Until a few years ago I decided that God would have to do his work here. I sat back, prayed, and watched Him work. Work, is exactly what he did and continues to do in my parents lives.

You always hear these sayings “Everything happens for a reason” I remember hearing this when I was a kid. It felt like everyone said this. It wasn’t till later in life I started to understand what this meant. It meant that God had a divine purpose for everything in life and he was going to carry out His work. You hate to see bad things happen, even when it’s a divorce. However, sometimes God needs to break his people so that they begin to love and honor him. It’s sad but true.

Since the decision I have watched both my parents hearts break. My dad has started to cry out for the Lord, ask for His help, and release his built up fear and anger. My mom is seeking to find herself by reading and praying. I continue to pray that they allow God into their lives to completely rend their hearts open. I’m also praying that we as a family look at this as a way to rend our hearts.

Joel 2:13 says, “Rend your heart and not your garments. Return to the Lord your God, for he is gracious and compassionate, slow to anger and abounding in love, and he relents from sending calamity.”

Do you ever feel like you need to tear your heart open for God? I believe that we return to God, when we allow our hearts to be torn open. When this happens we become gracious, compassionate, slow to anger, and abounding in love. Do you not agree? I can tell you that my whole family is tearing their hearts open and I am watching the Lord work in ways I have never seen.

If you are feeling angry, having trouble loving, or you can’t forgive, then you might want to consider tearing your heart open for God. You can finish strong by making sure you are weeping and mourning and tearing your heart open wide to allow God’s power and presence in your life. Tell God that you are baring your heart before His mercy, compassion, and unfailing love. Ask Him to give you the courage to join His advancing army. Ask Him to open your eyes to dreams and visions that weren’t clear before.

Discussion Question: Are you tearing your heart open for God? If you’re tearing your heart open, what are you experiencing? How is God working? How are you feeling?

  • Phillip Neal

    Danny – great post, it seems like God uses pain and anguish to draw us closer.  Do you think we are in the midst of our own stuff and can’t find God? Perhaps we are ignorant to what he had for us, ignorant to our own sin, responsibility of owning our faults, etc.  It is when we become desperate, depressed, lonely, uncertain, that we begin to find him – forced into it.  I have been there a number of times in my life and it SUCKS……but God has always guided me and drawn me closer to him.  He has also improved my patience, helped me forgive others, taken care of my anger that I haven’t dealt with yet, revealed my need to be humble, and ultimately drew me closer to him which caused me to love others more, serve more, and ultimately be more Christ like. 

    Thanks for sharing – I am sorry for your situation, blessing to you and your family as you journey this tough time together.  Keep your focus on the prize.     

    • Phillip,

      Thanks for the comment and encouragement. God always provides and we just need to keep chasing after him because he is always chasing after us.

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