CONNECTING WITH PEOPLE REQUIRES PATIENCE AND SLOWING DOWN

The good news is we move fast; the bad news is we move fast. Now pause for a second and think about this statement. Your probably even having trouble pausing, aren’t you? Are we as leaders moving to fast? Are we moving so fast that we are forgetting to connect with people? Is the pace at which we are moving putting us in a place, where we’re all alone?

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We live in a society where everything is fast. Fast food, instant oatmeal, online banking, and now we can even take pictures of our checks and deposit them. Everybody is in a hurry. The average person has no clue where their going, their just in a hurry. This is my opinion.

How do you think the people that you lead are feeling about this? Are they exhausted trying to keep up with you? Do they feel so disconnected that it causes change or havoc in their lives. Maybe you’re having trouble retaining team members. Remember, everyone has a desire to feel connected and if that desire is not met, they move on and find it someplace else. Can you blame them?

I know for me patience, slowing down, and connecting are my biggest weaknesses. I like moving fast. I remember when I used to race professional motorcycles my dad would always tell me, “You need to slow down if you want to speed up”. This was so true then and still is today for all leaders. I know it is for me.

If I desire to connect with people I need to slow down. As hard as it can be at times, I’m working very hard to slow down because I want to connect with people. I want to get to know people, so that I can add value to them. I figure if I’m not willing to slow down I’m not willing to connect.

How are you doing as a leader? Are you moving to fast? If you want to connect with people and be a great leader, here are a few things you can do.

  • Have patience with people.
  • Love people.
  • Invest in people both time, energy, and resources.
  • Walk slowly through the halls as John Maxwell says.
  • Carry a notebook around, and write things down about people, then study it. This will help when you want to connect with people.

These things are working for me, they work for the professionals, and I’m sure they will work for you. Just make sure you take the time to slow down, have patience, and connect with people. Every good leader knows how to connect.

Discussion Question? What are you doing to slow down, have patience, and connect with people? Do you have any tricks that you can share? Maybe some disciplines?

  • Bfrider

    nice post Danny. I wish I had some tricks or ways to slow down. The biggest thing that helped me slow down when starting my business a few years ago was that I didn’t have a car and that forced me to slow down a lot! I had to borrow a cell phone from my interns to make sales calls; I ended up stumbling upon great empty buildings around town and crashing corporate parties because going home to eat mac & cheese wasn’t something that I was in a hurry to do. So, for me it is the technology; the car, the computer, the cell phone, the tomagotche, etc. things that make life to comfortable. I need to go in the reverse of a smart phone and get pigeon. that’s my 2 cents.

    • Thanks for the comment. It sounds like you went through some tough
      times and it was humbling. I’m glad to hear that you are persevering
      and being strong. I pray good things for you brother.

      DANNY BECKETT JR
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